In fact, I think he really would rather I still had it and was able to go out and have fun as much as I did when I still had my bag.Also, he never saw me as any less beautiful or sexy. No matter who we are, everyone is going to go through things in their lives, be it an ostomy, Cancer, depression or a death in the family.In my experience, the people who leave are the ones who would were not worth my time to begin with, leaving me with the best friends and the best husband possible.It took me a long time to find him, but it was sooo worth it.Even when I had a leak later that night while we were out to eat, it didn't really bother me because I knew it didn't bother my husband (still love calling him that! My advice is to be as honest as you feel comfortable being right from the start.If you act embarrassed, it makes it an uncomfortable situation for the other person. This lesson was a hard one for me to learn, but it helped me so much in my life. Dating is hard enough without an ostomy and I'm sorry that you have to go through this.The cold hard truth is that having a disease like Crohn's, or an ostomy or any other real life problem is too much for some shallow people to handle.The good news is that it really helps you weed out the people who aren't worth your time any way.
for me the situation was when i was asked about work/career...since i dont work right now, usually that led into them asking why that was and my surgery info came out there.Some of the best intamate times we ever had were when I had the bag, no lie. When these things happen, sometimes the people who we thought would be there for us forever show their true colors and bail.I really believe that in a way, people like us who can not hide all of our problems and have to be who we are from the start scars and all, have a gift because we get to find out right away who the worth while people are and who the temporary people are.there are people on those sites looking for far worse things, there is nothing wrong with being there for yourself. personally something like that would not detract me from a person.I reckon 80% of fancying someone is on personality.
i discovered that i felt best sharing whatever someone wanted to know....i mentioned that i had some surgery issue and they did not inquire further..be it.